1. Often heard advice: masturbate or orgasm from oral or other foreplay, then use the second erection for penetration. I've been told it lasts longer.
2. Think of a wall. Seriously. One guy told me he thinks of a brick wall because it is the most non-sexual thing he can think of. Someone else told me he thinks of Margaret Thatcher.
3. Use a numbing cream. I do not condone or warn against this. I have no experience with this one whatsoever.
4. Use a condom.
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The flip side of this dilemma can be found here.
I have a better advice.
ReplyDeleteDo you cum in thirty seconds? Do you feel like it's a problem?
DON'T. Fucking cum in thirty seconds. Cumming is beautiful. Orgasms are awesome. It's not a problem.
Is your partner frustrated? Have them learn what sex is about. Intimacy. Connection. Shared feelings. Powerful emotions. Physical pleasure, of course. But don't let anyone have you believe that good sex is about good physical performance.
Oh, by the way. Did you know that most people who "suffer" from what is called "premature ejaculation" (terrible name: it would assume there is a right time for ejaculation. There is not, all orgasms are welcome!) are actually suffering from some form of performance anxiety? It works like this. You cum in thirty seconds, like ALL men do when they crave sex and are super horny. Someone says you are inadequate. You build anxiety. With anxiety on you, you cum even earlier. Fuck it. Enjoy the relaxing part of sex.
And if you still want to give your partners long-lasting poundings, follow the core from the basic advice: have sex multiple times. Relaxed sex, enjoying every single orgasm like it was a good gift, not an interruption of some theoretical performance.
Enjoy your sex.